Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Independent to a Fault:

..something I realized about myself about 2 months ago.  Independence is indefinitely subjective, as are most personality traits, but I'm sure a vast majority of people can agree that to be independent means diligence, responsibility, and self-reliance.  I think I've OVER-mastered those, to the point that I don't rely on people now at all.  My dad always encouraged us to do things on our own and I fully internalized that.

I've learned that MAYBE 1 out of every 8 people are truly who they claim to be.  I've also learned that I hate wasting my time.  Therefore, I don't indulge in very many "friendships" because being vulnerable/confiding in others has rarely (if ever) resulted in a positive outcome.  Of course, I'll rely on my parents, but anyone else?  Not really.  First of all, most of the people my age do not know the meaning of responsibility:  paying your own bills, working hard, and proactively preparing for the future.  I know that if someone isn't on the same mental path as me, I'm wasting my time.  PERIOD.  If I'm constantly striving for excellence and my "friends" or "significant other(s)" have been stagnant, that's dead weight; only good for one thing:  SLOWING ME DOWN.


I think I just attract those kind of people, though.  Like, maybe all this psychology stuff and analyzing attracts people with issues...?? --which is not to say that I'm excluded from that group by any means, lol.  I can honestly say that of the 400+ friends/acquaintances I've had, I've only relied on 7 of them, and yes, I actually counted. [[that's 1.75%!!!!]]  3 of those are childhood friends.
I strongly believe that as people age, they (inevitably) become more corrupted and a large portion of those people haven't been equipped with the proper tactics to handle such adversity.


I honestly think that some of my most recent encounters have been incredible wastes of time, but simultaneously huge learning experiences that further reinforced my already steadfast independence.  ...and I know that independence "won't keep me warm at night," but it WILL allow me to afford to put the heat on full blast and buy all the blankets I need.